It’s something my clients talk to me about all the time.
The idea that, perhaps some of their friends have seen another friends wedding photos, and they’ve then tried to replicate that on their own wedding day. And the degree to which they succeed in replicating these photos isn’t significant.
If you’re anything like my clients, the idea of spending time on your wedding day recreating somebody else’s photos – where you want to be with your loved ones – is just a bit bizarre. You’re there to immerse yourself in an intimate celebration of love. What other people do for the sake of a photo doesn’t really seem relevant.
Let’s for a moment, just picture that perfect wedding photo you’d like to have at your own wedding some day.
You probably have one in mind. For my clients, it’s going to have people in it who are deeply significant in their lives, and it’s going to be a moment that tells a personal story. It could be contain humour or a intense romance, or everything in between.
Place that photo in your minds eye.
Think about the people you see in that photo and how it makes you feel. What emotions it stirs, what story it might tell.
It’s so beautiful and moving, that you just wish you could have something exactly like that, right?
In this case how you get there is actually more important than the photo itself. Bear with me. It’s the end result that always counts, right? Well what we might be thinking of as the end result, a photo, isn’t where it really finishes. Remember the details of that photo in your minds eye and seeing something… that isn’t just skin deep, but a moment which throws out emotion and moves you? That makes you feel like you know how the people in that photo feel?
Well, stop right there. Imagine you are the person who was really there, who actually lived that moment, how would that photo then make you feel? Incredible. A completely unique feeling – that is the end result.
The moment you start trying to replicate the idea of a photograph, you’re denying yourself the chance to live your own life-moments. And you’re missing out on the end result, that feeling of your own meaningful photograph.
So how do we get to these photographs, these feelings?
Live them, don’t try to manufacture them. Then you need someone with the vision & compassion to actually see and capture these photographs.