The Wedding Rules We Should All Break

I love that my clients break the so-called ‘wedding rules’. These unspoken rules dictate that we should all arrive, witness and leave in an orderly fashion. The day must unfold with military precision and not stray from the traditionally accepted norms. Similar to that outdated venue you visited, who were going to make you choose your suppliers from a prescribed list – and no doubt sent you running for the hills – the idea is to make your wedding a well oiled machine.

Which is what you’d expect from a conveyor belt approach, right?

Yeah, that approach is pretty impersonal. It’s fine, I guess, if you want to get-in-and-out as soon as possible. But if you’re anything like my clients, you’re going to want your wedding day to be an immersive, heartfelt experience. Not an industrial production line.

So when I mention breaking the rules, what I’m speaking about are the smaller things. The little, thoughtful touches which help express a part of yourself, the history of the relationship you’re celebrating and how thankful you are to share all of this with the people in your life.

Because I think it’s easy to be different, for the sake of being different. That’s a very different thing. Like that post from the DailyMash you may have seen, which paradoxically points the finger at over-the-top, extravagant weddings that break the rules to be a spectacle. For the sake of impressing people, gloating… who knows?

When my clients break the rules, there is a lot more thought involved.

Such as when Chrissie & Matt used a Buddhist inspired ceremony to bring people together. They passed around this long ball of twine, which was tied around the wrist of each guest and passed along. So that everyone was physically joined together by the twine during the ceremony, to symbolise how important each person was to them during this shared moment in their life.

 

Or when Gemma & Robert put aside a moment to present her parent’s with a surprise gift. They had this beautiful oak post with a personal message carved into it, thanking them for all their help with the wedding planning. It was just after the speeches when Gemma & Robert took them into another room and shared it with them – a really thoughtful idea.

 

These aren’t traditional wedding rules; not ordered from a scripted list of accepted wedding photos. They’re a small part of a whole; when each element is a soulful reminder of the love in your life, the celebration of your shared history, and the people you’ve invited who make your life meaningful.

Those are thoughtful expressions of love, and the wedding rules we should all break.

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